Montgomery Frazier
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Education:
Boarding school: St. Catherine’s School, Richmond, Virginia; BA from University of Virginia, Charlottesville, Virginia.
Place of residence:
Manhattan.
Do you foresee a time when philanthropy will become the norm rather the exception?
That time is now. When young students donate bake sale proceeds to hurricane victims, philanthropy’s place in society is assured. President Kennedy started the Peace Corps in the 1960’s. Perhaps it was he who taught a whole generation that collectively they could better the world.
If any, what is the difference between altruism and philanthropy?
Though both words concern the betterment of others, altruism is the unselfish concern or devotion to the welfare of others, while philanthropy is the giving of money, property or work to help others. Giving could be motivated purely for self-advancement.
Can the average man or woman of modest income be a potential philanthropist candidate?
Absolutely! One does not have to give hundreds of millions to be considered a philanthropist; Remember, a philanthropist can also give property or time, which is priceless.
Perhaps it was John F. Kennedy who taught a whole generation that collectively they could better the world.
Who are your favorite authors, artists, musicians, fashion designers, architect and actors?
My favorites, in order: Fellow Virginian Tom Wolfe; John Singer Sargent; Neil Sedaka; Maggie Norris, Ralph Rucci and Nicole Miller; Stanford White, Harvey Keitel and Bob de Niro
How do define the term socialite and philanthropist as understood by the public?
The American Heritage College Dictionary defines socialite as “one prominent in society” and a philanthropist as “one who is involved in philanthropy, the effort or inclination to increase human well-being.” I agree with those definitions!
Which term best describes you?
Personally, my husband and I are both philanthropic – donating our time and resources to organizations whose missions and goals resonate with our own.
Describe what in your opinion, makes for a true socialite and philanthropist?
Like the dictionary, I too define socialite as a prominent member of society – someone about whom others want to know. Prominence not withstanding, I think the important part of being a socialite, however, is that one should also be a respected member of society – a role model, and an aspiration for others. I believe that anyone who gives generously (and not necessarily altruistically) to the betterment of others is a philanthropist.
Where were you born? And tell us a little bit about your upbringing?
I am a Virginian, of an old Tidewater family, who was born on Chesapeake Bay. I remember with fondness a childhood and adolescence spent riding, sailing the Bay and water skiing on the Eastern Shore’s many creeks and inlets. I also recall seated family dinners (where we had to drink milk!), Easter egg hunts on the farm, music lessons and Sunday lunches that served tomato aspic and shucked oysters. (And, sneaking cigarettes at Boarding School!)
Has the term socialite been tarnished by unflattering press about the new set of social girls?
As an “old-timer”, I hope that anyone who has a social presence will use her visibility to promote charitable causes which she is interested in.
Could you walk us thru one of your typical days?
I wake with my husband and leave him with newspapers and CNBC while I exercise. Then I “officially” begin my day at 8:30. If the morning does not begin with a breakfast, I go to the office and begin a day of solicitation and business phone calls, conference calls, fundraising and committee meetings, strategic planning sessions, lunch or coffee with girlfriends, writing and research, and perhaps a beauty appointment or a fitting thrown in! Around 6:00, I’ll give my husband a kiss hello, dress for our evening plans, or join the housekeeper in the kitchen to help her prepare dinner at home!
What is the cause that you are most passionate about and committed to?
As with many others, it is hard for me to limit my passion to one cause. The organizations to which I am most committed are ASPCA, Alzheimer’s Association, Lighthouse International and The New York Women’s Foundation.
What would you like to accomplish in your lifetime?
I am proud and blessed that I have been able to raise millions for charitable causes. My lifetime go al? To continue fundraising and one day to alleviate the suffering of Alzheimer patients, find a cure for vision loss and better enable women to succeed.
I think it would be safe to say that most people have the notion that being a cosmopolitan or a New York socialite/philanthropist is all about parties, beautiful designer wardrobes and endless champagne. What, in your experience, is it really like?
Life is what you make of it. Though there is an abundance of beautiful fabrics, gracious hospitality, and outstanding vintages, a fulfilling “social life” also has to be a life of self control, self-effacing humor, and self-sacrifice; a life without envy, and a life of truly wanting the best for others.
Do you have any pet peeves that you can share with us?
Lying – and broken promises.
What inspires you to do the good deeds you do?
Mother, Grandmother and the Trinity.
Can you give any advice for proper young ladies and gentlemen who aspire to your accomplishments?
Always behave like a lady or a gentleman, check your arrogance, find something good in a situation, and be as generous as you can.
More or less, what is your overall philosophy of life?
Be true to your self and be kind to others
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